In support of any person which has taken care of a child having mental health concerns, specifically bi polar disorder as well as schizophrenia, My wife and I will not need to let you know that it’s 100 % pure hell on earth. Being parents, we have difficulty daily with the guilt associated with definitely not having the ability to provide enough for our own Son. Being the leader of our house I’m continuously searching for a healthier way to deal with this particular endless challenge.
Our son is now twenty-one years old and although he is living in an apartment on his own, we must visit every single day to make sure he takes his medicine. He will never have what we would call a normal life. It just breaks our hearts to think that the little sweet innocent baby boy that we brought into our home at the very young age of three months old will most likely never hold a job or have a family of his own. Anyone that doesn’t think that bi polar or schizophrenia is not a crippling disease, needs to witness the life of our adopted son.
He would always want to drive! He had taken the bonds which his grandpa had given to him each and every birthday celebration since the 1st 1 and purchased a vehicle at his graduation. He furthermore signed up for a Vocational College to become an industrial electrician. I can not explain exactly how thrilled my wife and I were for him despite the fact that at that point the only thing which had manifested itself had been the bi polar disorder. We assisted by taking out a personal loan to assist in paying for the education. He’d only turned 18 a couple of months before.
I suppose he made it around four weeks of classes before he started being absent a day here and a day there. Before long he had been absent 2 or 3 days at the same time. Soon enough he dropped out entirely. My wife and I were extremely disappointed with him when this occurred unsure as well as not really knowing that he not merely had bi polar but at this point he was starting to acquire the mental disease of schizophrenia. We had not a clue other than we started to observe weirder and weirder conduct coming from him.
It was not long afterwards he smashed up his vehicle. He had been driving very quickly and slid right into a tree in front of somebody’s house. We nevertheless failed to grasp the condition at this point and merely presumed he had been irresponsible. He’d quit college, wrecked his vehicle, did not have work, and would sleep constantly. In our book he had been simply lazy and irresponsible.
What we didn’t realize was that the pacing, talking to no one, the sleeping, the erratic behavior was all part of bi polar and schizophrenia disease. The unfortunate thing was that this was only the tip of the ice berg. All hell was beginning to reveal itself and we didn’t have one clue what we were in store for. His bedroom was in the basement and he spent hours and hours down there for the most part sleeping. However, then he would spend most of his nights up, going through the refrigerator and cupboards making mess after mess. Not to mention that he was walking throughout the house making noise and keeping the rest of us awake.
Argument following argument occurred, but no progress was made. If you have any understanding of bi polar disorder or schizophrenia you’ll know that without the right medicine it gets completely out of control. Well that was precisely what was happening. In the true sense of the word, things were getting crazy. Our solution was that we needed to be much more forceful and demanding of what we expected of him. Wrong answer, at least in our case!
He had been becoming a lot more delusional. He started mentioning the home as his and that we had been a guest there. He started strange motions with his hands and head. He’d look right through a person even though a person would be speaking with him. Following a short time he’d then reply to a question you may have asked 2 or 3 minutes back. He grew to become increasingly more hostile in his actions. His mom started to get anxious of him.
This all continued until the day he completely exploded into violence. He swung and struck his mother in the eye. Although I wanted to unload on him, I took him to the floor and held there until the police arrived. I never used that much energy to hold a person down. He struggled with every ounce of his being to get loose. I was not about to let that happen until the police arrive. He would bite my arm that I have around his neck and face. I spent twelve years in the Marine Corps and never did I experience anything so completely out of control.
I realize that I wanted to beat him to a pulp but could not simply because he was my son. The police finally arrived and was able to hand cuff him. They knew immediately that he experienced some type of psychological problems. They didn’t arrest him based on our pleas to get him psychological help. They instead placed him on a hold in a local psychological locked ward.
As soon as he had been examined they instantly established he had not merely bi polar, but additionally schizophrenia. It had been like a light went on for us. It absolutely was great to understand that there was reasons for his actions and not that he had been merely a misfit. That has not necessarily made living any simpler; however we recognize much more about it. As a matter of reality we’re turning into experts through the University of Hard Knocks. Not really a university you would like to go to, believe me.
If you’re a parent who has a kid with either bi polar disorder or schizophrenia, trust me when I inform you that we understand. Get assist and stay focused.
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