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All of us have had moments of anger in our lives. I know I certainly have and expect you have, too.

It is normal to have anger, but anger needs to be controlled. Some people have trouble with that. Not managing anger ruins careers, relationships, and can lead to crime if left unchecked.

Learning to deal with and control your anger is very important. Here are some suggestions to help manage your anger.

1. Close friends or family members are often understanding and easy to TALK to. Do you have someone like that in your life? Ask them if they would be willing to listen. Talking when you are angry allows you to tell your side of the story and tell why you are angry. But a good friend will be able to not only listen but also give you a different perspective - maybe something you have not thought about. Talking it out can help you to sort through all the issues involved with your anger.

2. During a fit of anger, WRITE down your thoughts and feelings. No one talks back so it is easier to get things off your chest. Writing can also help you identify different “triggers” that cause your outbursts. Writing by hand or on your computer both work well.

3. Have you ever wanted to do something PHYSICAL to someone? You’d like to “take it out” on them because they did something to you. Don’t assault the person. Use all that pent up energy at the gym, go for a run, or even hit a pillow. By releasing that energy on a neutral article, you can manage your anger and not hurt anyone in the process.

4. I know this is difficult, but taking a VACATION or getting away from the situation and spending some alone time works really well. By removing yourself from the environment that causes your anger and frustration, you will see things in a new light. You will probably find some solutions to your problem, too.

5. Prayer and meditation work well for some people with anger management problems. Both of these activities give you a chance to be alone with your thoughts in a way to release tension. Letting go of your anger and negative thoughts will make a positive change in your life.

6. You might also try some deep breathing exercises, any kind of physical exercise, getting more sleep, getting yourself outside to enjoy nature, learning to laugh, and either playing an instrument or listening to music. All of these are great methods for releasing your anger and therefore learning to manage your anger.

Using some or these ways to manage your anger can help you to avoid the adverse consequences of uncontrolled anger. Learn to control your anger. You and those you love will be much happier.